1. Flavour of life
   1. F (Family) - Put family first
   2. L (Love) - Create space for things you love
   3. A (Aspirations) - Work towards your aspirations
   4. V (Value) - Add value
   5. O (Opportunity) - See opportunity
   6. U (Yourself) - Invest in yourself
   7. R (Relationships) - Cultivate relationships that matter
2. Assets
   1. Productive assets - are our skills and capabilities that help us drive value today.
   2. Vitality assets refer to our physical and mental health and our ability to handle stress and manage intensity in our lives.
   3. Transformative assets are the set of assets that will help us stay relevant in the future. This includes skills, mindsets and relationships.
3. I notice that the truly self-aware have a learner's mindset when it comes to understanding themselves and show a sense of humility and healthy discontent with how much they know about themselves. The not-so-self-aware often have a smug, misplaced confidence and an "I have it all figured out" mindset when it comes to curiosity about themselves.
4. The anchor that helps us make better decisions in this world with a close to infinite supply of anything is to be very clear about who we are and what we want.
5. Pause across 4 timescales:
   1. Hourly for five to ten minutes - Can centre myself for the next conversation or the next activity
   2. Weekly for around three hours - Become aware of my priorities and see if I am slipping on the key workstreams that I am supposed to pursue. I end up blocking Thursday mornings for ‘me’ time
   3. Quarterly for a day - Gives me a sense of how I am handling the various domains of life, and how I am allocating time, attention and energy across these
   4. Yearly for about a week - It allows me to reflect on some of the deeper elements of purpose
6. Several leaders I work with often use the car commute as an opportunity to pause and reflect and gather themselves. They ensure that they don’t over-schedule themselves with too many calls in this window and just use the time to decompress and gather themselves before they get to work or return from work. That is often a sacred space where one can claim some precious ‘me time’ to get to the centre of the court before playing the next point.
7. Albert Mehrabian, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of California at Los Angeles, speaks about the 55–38–7 rule where he says that:
   1. 55 per cent of the impact in any communication is body language
   2. 38 per cent is the tonality
   3. 7 per cent is the actual content of what is being said.
8. I am a big believer in taking ownership of seeking regular feedback as a way of life.
9. In 2011, Bronnie Ware, a palliative nurse, published her book, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. Given the profession she was in, she had a unique lens on the lives of the dying as she moved from individual to individual while they lived out their last few days. She outlined the following regrets as the ones that the people on their deathbed spoke about.
   1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me to;
   2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard;
   3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings;
   4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends;
   5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
10. Dan Pink, in his widely famous TED talk around the Puzzle of Motivation,3 speaks about three things required to motivate people:
    1. autonomy
    2. mastery
    3. purpose.
11. Relationships are a key element of intangible assets that is worth shining light on. An eighty-year study of happiness at Harvard Medical School by Dr Robert Waldinger8 has shown that close relationships and social connections are the #1 factor responsible for our well-being as we age.
12. ‘Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.’ This quote by Howard Thurman captures the essence of Vineet’s approach to life.
13. My submission here is that if we look hard enough, there are many places where we are allocating time and attention to the twentieth scoop with no tangible outcome and if we can redirect that to some of the undernourished elements of our life, we could live a much richer life.
14. Three approaches come to mind in this context of developing the heart muscle:
    1. Consider havin some art in your life. I believe that the heart and art are closely connected.
    2. Secondly, I suggest you consider bringing in some awe in the rhythm of your life - The broad definition of awe is the feeling you experience when you are in the presence of something much bigger than you
    3. The third thought here is to consider engaging in some form of philanthropy if you have not already. I feel it puts life in perspective, builds gratitude and develops the heart
15. For any case we were asked to follow 6 broad steps:
    1. situational analysis,
    2. problem definition,
    3. generation of options,
    4. criteria for decision,
    5. evaluation of options
    6. decision
16. Four elements that we felt captured elements of potential.
    1. Being Curious: Openness to learning, trying new things and to feedback
    2. Being Engaging: Relating to people and building meaningful human connections
    3. Being Resilient: Grinding through the mundane and bouncing back from shocks
    4. Being Insightful: Connecting the dots across various domains and systems thinking